Impacts of Loss

Some of these changes over which we feel we have no control may cause us to feel unsettled or frightened.

In addition to sadness and sorrow in our grief we can also experience rage, anger, pain, or feelings of confusion, emptiness, and loneliness. These may lead to anxiety, numbness, depression or a sense of helplessness.  
Whilst family and friends may be supportive and helpful, it may not feel enough. It may be difficult to share our grief for fear of burdening those close to us, or perhaps they too may be trying to manage their own grief.  And there are those of us who don’t have family or friends with whom we can share our grief.  

Sometimes when we are suffering we may know that we need “something”, but we may not know what that “something” is. Professional support from a trained practitioner may therefore be helpful to provide a caring, nonjudgmental, safe space in which to tell your story, express your fears and concerns and work towards recovery and reinvesting in your life.  This is important for you as well as for those close to you.

Grief is hard work.
We hope that you don’t underestimate the effort required to get through the everyday tasks of life that we usually take for granted. Try to take care of yourself and we hope that you find some comfort to help you through this difficult time.

Counselling Centre for
Loss, Grief & Trauma
(03) 9509 0097

Myths about Grief

It is wrong/not ok to be happy.

Not true – you will experience times of happiness even in the midst of your grief. Hopefully over time these periods will increase in frequency and length.


I want someone to take my pain away.

No one can take our pain away. We need to go through our own grieving process, in our own way and in our own time.  We can however be supported in our journey by family, friends and others.